Did i do the right thing?

[AEseany808]

So last night, i get back to my dorm room after running a bunch of errands to find something sitting on the windowsill near my bed. I figured my room mate had left something there, so i went to look at it. it was a baggy with little things inside that looked like those things you throw on the ground that make a "snap" noise, my first though was "wow, those are some big poppers!" upon further examination, it came to me that they weren't those popper things, but little pouches of cocaine! i panicked, why was there crack in my room? i wasn't sure for sure if that was what it was, so i sent a pic to a few friends who all confirmed it. i immediately sent an email to the Residential Director, then, once things quieted down i alerted my RA's before leaving for the night. He came in shortly after i sent the email, and casually picked up the baggy and put it in his safe... it was really weird, then he left for the night with his friends (which is when i told the RA's)

He and i don't really talk much, as we don't have anything in common... he is really gangster, but doesn't seem like a bad kid... thus making it all really hard, i don't want to hinder his future, but i was put in an awkward and uncomfortable situation... now the dean of students is involved... should i have gone about things differently?

[Ningurl]

I would have done the same thing. Even if you had of talked to him first, that makes you an 'accomplis' (sp) of sorts because you know of the coke. He should not have left it in your room, nor should he have been in it. I think you did the right thing. You were protecting YOUR ***.

[jimjim]

I would have picked up the phone and called the cops

[KRISSY]

You did the right thing. You have to look out for yourself. You don't want something to happen down the road and it appears you may have also been involved. Your roomie shouldn't have put you in that situation.

[CaydensMama]

I don't see anything wrong with what you did. You are keeping yourself out of trouble, plus, even if your roommate does suspect you told, at least he will know that you are NOT ok with having that around. It may help keep him out of some future trouble as well if he is more careful about what he leaves lying around now.

[redfishbluefish]

{ersonally I wouldn't have gotten involved, other than to tell buddy that you had seen what he had in the room and that "it's not smart leaving it out where it can be seen". If after that, it was around again, then I would have said something to someone... Of course, I am always an advocate of not getting involved when it comes to addictions because very rarely does being a hero in these situations not get you into a WHOLE LOT of crap you don't need. Ignorance seems to be best.

I am sure I will be slaughtered for saying this though...

[ahaxton]

You did the right thing. You don't need somebody overdosing in your dorm. You got yourself out of a situation that might come and ruin your life.

[hotpinkblond]

You definitely did the right thing!!! Good for you!!!!

Whoever that stuff belongs to needs to guard it better if they don't want to get caught.

YOU easily could have gotten blamed for it and it could have hurt YOUR future!!

I'm really impressed by your courage to do the right thing. I hope my son will be as smart as you are when he'd older!! It seems so rare to day that anyone had the guts to do the right thing!!

[duh_its_ ali]

it's kind of a hard thin with roommates esp when you live in one room with them and you don't really know them ... he shouldn't be leaving things like that out in plain sight ... if he's going to be doing it he needs to be more conscious of YOU ...

i would have done what you did ... they do random checks etc all the time etc ...

[~*HoneyBee*~]

I'd have left it alone and minded my own business.

[tasia]

That some scary shet.I Would of talked with the room mate first.Your safety might be at risk now,I'm not trying to scare you.But gangsters don't like narks.

[jimjim]

I see it as his business because its his room too. this guy was wrong not you. this is your room and you shouldn't be disrespected like this... I would no longer want him as a roomate.

[laynie]

Hmm, well if it was little individual bags of the drug, I would assume he's probably selling it. If you've gotten the authorities involved already, there is no point in questioning if you should have or not. They won't back out of it. It's likely this kid will be kicked out of res, however I think you did the right thing. If the both of you were out, and they did a random search of dorms, you could both be held responsible unless he fessed up that it was his. And that could mean really serious consequences for yourself. Stand by what you think is right and it will all sort itself out!

[~*HoneyBee*~]

That some scary shet.I Would of talked with the room mate first.Your safety might be at risk now,I'm not trying to scare you.But gangsters don't like narks.

My thoughts exactly almost....Aside from being a so called, "gangster" is
irrelevant. No body likes a narc especially in this situation. I would raise the scale on your paranoia level and watch your back for a long time.

[ahaxton]

Narc talk is nonsense. I doubt you have anything to worry about, the roommate sounds like a dumb criminal, a stupid kid. Hopefully he'll be kicked out. Gangster - He isn't one. Wannabe is more like it as stupid as that is.

[jimjim]

Narc talk is nonsense. I doubt you have anything to worry about, the roommate sounds like a dumb criminal, a stupid kid. Hopefully he'll be kicked out. Gangster - He isn't one. Wannabe is more like it as stupid as that is.

*faints* I agree its most likely just some punk

[hotpinkblond]

Narc talk is nonsense. I doubt you have anything to worry about, the roommate sounds like a dumb criminal, a stupid kid. Hopefully he'll be kicked out. Gangster - He isn't one. Wannabe is more like it as stupid as that is.


Amen!!

And I agree jimjim, it IS his business b/c it is HIS dorm!! Good grief how chicken are people these days?? This is why it's so hard to take the real bad guys down. Everyone is afraid of them so no one talks.......so lame.

[MasterStanF2k]

Otherwise it woulda been you and him behind bars ;)
I don't advocate snitching tho..

[ahaxton]

Otherwise it woulda been you and him behind bars ;)
I don't advocate snitching tho..


Why wouldn't you advocate "snitching". It's your duty as a citizen to uphold the laws of this country.

[kgymn]

I have to agree with the people who said that if you hadn't told on him, and they found this stuff, you'd be in just as much trouble as him. So I definitely think telling was the right thing to do!

~Katy

[jimjim]

i wonder if those who call this snitching tattle tailing or being a narc would feel the same if their daughter was raped and a witness came forward that put the criminal in jail..

[Missruby]

I wouldnt have said anything, just tried to get a new roomate. Just my opinion.

[ILoveNOLA83]

i think that was the right thing- you could have easily gotten in trouble if someone else saw that in your room. being a nark or tattler would be if it was something stupid, but crack is pretty serious and you have every right to be honest and keep yourself from taking the fall for something you had no part of

[Zzoester]

I would have just asked my roommate about it. I believe in confrontation and getting answers before I act on serious matters. That's just me, though. It's only your business because you share a dorm together. You acted appropriately for your own good.

Don't stress, you did what you thought was the right thing at the moment. We are not here to judge and approve or disapprove. Obviously, you did something that a lot of other people would have done, too.

I'm just glad that you will not be getting in trouble for it. Good luck! They should set you up immediately with a temporary housing dorm. Like NOW. Or move the other guy on out. Personally, he's probably ****** so I would move all my stuff out of there first so he doesn't have the chance to possibly take some of your stuff. Anyway, I'd demand that they made arrangements immediately so you do not have a deal with an uncomfortable situation with the roommate....they should be facilitating that for you.

[sscc8220]

You did the right thing doll. I personally would not call out somebody on something like that but you are in college and you have your whole future ahead of you w/o somebody doing stupid crap like that in your dorm room! :eek: What kind of freaking idiot leaves something like THAT sitting on a windowsill????????? That is just plain stupid. The lack of respect for you bugs me too-it was near your bed. How convenient if the RA walks in and lookie here by your bed are little baggies of cocaine. :evil: People just don't have any respect for one another anymore. Arrrghh.

I don't like to get all hung up in the middle of things after being there before in a totally different situation. I have known people who do this crap and are fine-they live day to day lives, have kids, blah blah. It bugs me-I hate the stuff myself. Then there are people who get all caught up in it and go nuts if they can't have it or get it. It's a strange thing.

Just to clear the air about the whole crack cocaine thing. I am not trying to be a smart a-- at all but there is a difference in crack and cocaine. Cocaine begins in a shrub called the coca plant that is in Peru, Columbia, etc. It is taken to labs and processed which provides you with a much more concentrated form of the drug-cocaine hydrochloride which most of us have seen and/or know about. It is 'cut' with sugar, flour, etc to make the drug less strong on the streets. Crack, on the other hand, is when the cocaine is cooked or freebased and baked then broken into 'rocks' which we know as crack rocks.

There we go. Education on drugs for the evening. :D

There is a cocaine nasal spray that is given before or after nasal or sinus surgeries (I can't remember since I have never made it before!) It is compounded by the pharmacy and administered. I know a couple of friends that I work with have made it. It is interesting to learn more about when it comes to that aspect of it especially with pain control in people with cancer, etc. I am such a dork. :Curved:

[synergistik]

I personally wouldn't have done anything, but I think that reporting it was also okay, especially if you think that it could have gotten associated with you.

[Zzoester]

I just wonder...are you REALLY sure of what it was?

[Zzoester]

i wonder if those who call this snitching tattle tailing or being a narc would feel the same if their daughter was raped and a witness came forward that put the criminal in jail..


That's way different. Sorry, not a good comparison.

[Zzoester]

Why wouldn't you advocate "snitching". It's your duty as a citizen to uphold the laws of this country.

"Duty"? I don't think so. There are laws I absolutely do not believe in. THIS isn't one of them, but still....regarding other topics, it's not my job to police people and enforce laws I do not believe in.

[~*HoneyBee*~]

"Duty"? I don't think so. There are laws I absolutely do not believe in. THIS isn't one of them, but still....regarding other topics, it's not my job to police people and enforce laws I do not believe in.

Amen to that!!

[jimjim]

in other words yall think its okay too deal in drugs. a crimes a crime

[sunshine_bunnie]

omg thats CRAZY!!! i would be scared b/c usually ppl who do/sell drugs can be dangerous especially when it comes to ppl narcing on them. but who wants to live with a coke dealer? that could be dangerous to you!!! a mean a deal gone wrong or an angry person could bust up in your room.

if worse comes to worse you could always request a room change, and due to the severity of the situation they should approve that asap!!!

[100%Sun]

I think you did the right thing. If it was me, I'm kind of a wuss but I certainly wouldn't stay roommates. But then I would want to tell someone about it and then the guy would still get busted and know who told so it doesn't make much difference. Tough one.

You certainly needed to protect yourself. So what's the latest?? Keep us posted!!!!!!!!

[fbx22]

Yeah I agree with Jimjim Id have just called the cops. For all we know the RA might use it too. Not only were you protecting your back side but whether they believe it or not you potentially saved someones life

[Zzoester]

in other words yall think its okay too deal in drugs. a crimes a crime


Not sure who you are directing that at, but that is not at all what I said.

Please re-read my last post:
"Duty"? I don't think so. There are laws I absolutely do not believe in. THIS isn't one of them, but still....regarding other topics, it's not my job to police people and enforce laws I do not believe in.

I said..."THIS isn't one of them" <---- meaning: dealing coke isn't a law that I do not believe in.

I was responding to ahaxton's previous post about how it is our duty as citizens of this country to uphold the laws. Well, I don't think it's a "duty" and there are plenty of laws I do not believe in (that I save my breathe and not go into on here) that I will absolutely not uphold or expect others to, either.

Anyway, I'm all for a healthy debate. I'm just concerned that you did not interpret my post as it was stated and intended to be read.

[Zzoester]

It might not even be "coke" anyway. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty?

[AEseany808]

just an update.

it definitely was drugs. there was no mistaking. i vacated the room needless to say that night, and stayed with a friend. the resident director entered the room the next day (after speaking with me over the phone) and asked my roommate to speak with him and i though they knew i wasn't there, he told them i was not there and they just said they had heard form a few sources of suspicious behavior in our room (not blaming either of us) and that they would like permission to search the room. they found his safe, and asked to open it, he said he could not because he had lost the key. the search continued (of both my side and his side of the room) and the key was found. when they went to have him open the box, he grabbed it and ran... i just hope he is ok, i would hate for anything bad to happen to him, but he will not be able to return to the dorms because he became very confrontational during the search :-( i feel bad, but i was watching out for myself.

[jimjim]

just know you did the right thing. if he ends up being expelled he chose that path.. if he was dealing then he put not only his life as well as yours in danger..

[100%Sun]

What a relief for you! Sounds like they handled it great. Now it's up to the cops.

[hotpinkblond]

I just wonder...are you REALLY sure of what it was?


Well if it's not Coke then whats the big deal?? If the were poppers no ones getting in trouble.

Better safe than screwed.

[hotpinkblond]

It might not even be "coke" anyway. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty?


Seriously?!?! It's not THAT hard to know what it is....he also stated that he asked around. And he's not trying to send anyone to **** here, just to get an illegal substance out of his dorm.

Good Lord HE is the innocent one.

[GlitterQueen]

Good for you, you did the right thing. I think you are quite capable of figuring out it was drugs. You don't store sugar like that, and then put it in a safe. It is hard to confront someone as it is, let alone someone you have no relationship with and really don't know.....then to confront them about drugs.....come on. The original poster was at risk here-- physically as well as his education --BY someone doing/selling/possessing drugs. Point blank!!!!!!!!!!

[duh_its_ ali]

a charge like being on someone's record could ruin someone's life. and if you aren't worried about something like that being found when your rommate is doing something like that, you prob. wouldn't value your future. That's a big, big deal. why even risk it?

[Zzoester]

just an update.

it definitely was drugs. there was no mistaking. i vacated the room needless to say that night, and stayed with a friend. the resident director entered the room the next day (after speaking with me over the phone) and asked my roommate to speak with him and i though they knew i wasn't there, he told them i was not there and they just said they had heard form a few sources of suspicious behavior in our room (not blaming either of us) and that they would like permission to search the room. they found his safe, and asked to open it, he said he could not because he had lost the key. the search continued (of both my side and his side of the room) and the key was found. when they went to have him open the box, he grabbed it and ran... i just hope he is ok, i would hate for anything bad to happen to him, but he will not be able to return to the dorms because he became very confrontational during the search :-( i feel bad, but i was watching out for myself.


Wow! I'm glad you are OK. I can't believe that guy ran! Of all things to do if you were in a situation with any authority...that's one of the dumbest. It's probably BEST for you that he's not allowed to come back now....I can imagine it would be hard to have to see him around, etc. I'm glad everything played out quickly and you do not have to worry about it. So, if your housing situation the same and will you get a new roomie?

[Oobladi]

Seany, thanks for the update. I'm glad that you got out of there for the night. I really think that you did the right thing. You've always seemed like an awesome guy with a good head on his shoulders.



I just wonder...are you REALLY sure of what it was?

Well if it was something legal would the roommate really have needed to fetch it and immediately put it in a safe?

I've found this thread highly interesting as it shows the views of several of the members here.

[GlitterQueen]

^ it is very interesting. It seems like some do not find cocaine big deal. And that some would worry about upsetting a roommate over securing themselves and their education and future.

[synergistik]

I agree: it is interesting to see the different viewpoints people have. Personally if I were in the situation I would have just told my roommate to hide his stuff better, :lol:, but then again I support the decriminalisation of drug use, so I do have somewhat of an atypical viewpoint of the matter.

[laynie]

The original poster was at risk here-- physically as well as his education --BY someone doing/selling/possessing drugs. Point blank!!!!!!!!!!

YES! That is the most important thing. As much as I love being a caring person, you ultimately have to look out for YOURSELF. As an ex addict (I've been clean for over 1 and a half years), I know that cocaine is a serious drug. Never, ever to be taken lightly. Users can become seriously mentally ill as well. If the roommate was dealing it, Sean could be in serious danger, because users will do anything at any time to get some.

I thank God everything went well Sean. It sounds like the authorities also really did a good job of handling the situation. Best of luck!

[Zzoester]

I won't post in this thread anymore, but just for clarification...my views are similar to Walter's (but not quite identical). I certainly do not use cocaine and do believe it is a damaging drug...I don't think that particular drug should be legal and I certainly am not faulting Sean for how he dealt with it. Just because I might have handled it a differently, does not mean I do not understand or respect his choice of action. Maybe it's because of my job, but I try to be really fair, always confront people (it's not difficult for me but I can see how it might be hard for some people to do) when an issue comes up and get their story before I make judgements or pass information on to others. I guess I just look deeper into circumstances for explanation than some others and that is totally ok.
Of course I care about the safety of Sean and think he did what was best for him in that moment. That's what I said in my original post and I'll still to it. I'm not trying to argue, I am just bringing a different perspective to the table.

[Oobladi]

Zoe, there's no need to run away from this thread. Your entitled to your opinion even if you are a mod. ;) <---- That's a winking smiley folks. :D

Seriously though I believe in the the legalization of some substances but just b/c I think that they should be legalized doesn't mean I would want to share space with said substances. The phrase guilty by association came to mind after reading Sean's scenario. Years ago when a close friend moved from our hometown to a suburb of St. Louis, MO the principal at her junior high met with her and her parents on her first day. He told her that she would be walking into a school a world apart from the one that she left here in Illinois. His one bit of advice was that if you hung around garbage you would start to smell like it. I'm not calling anyone (or their roommate) garbage but I am extremely mindful of who I associate with.

[linds]

Narc talk is nonsense. I doubt you have anything to worry about, the roommate sounds like a dumb criminal, a stupid kid. Hopefully he'll be kicked out. Gangster - He isn't one. Wannabe is more like it as stupid as that is.

You never know, there are a lot of idiots out there with friends and family that will go a long way to 'help' take care of a nark.

As others said, you did the right thing but make sure you watch your back. This is a good time to be using the buddy system, LOL.